When you're already overwhelmed and overloaded and your to do list is a mile long, it's easy to see self care as another source of stress. It becomes another thing you're supposed to be doing, another thing to feel guilty about not doing.
Pretty soon it becomes a source of self-criticism:
"I'm not taking good enough care of myself."
"What's wrong with me?"
"I should meditate or something, but I just don't feel like it."
I used to see self care as something to feel guilty about not doing. It was another thing on my to-do list like laundry and taking out the recycling. But as I've gotten more in touch with my feminine energy, I have come to realize that self care is a gift that only I can give myself.
It's not something that inhibits my freedom by taking up time I don't feel prepared to invest. Self care actually gives me the gift of pleasure, the gift of comfort, the gift of expressing love to myself.
As women, it is our birthright to experience pleasure and joy on a daily basis. I make time to do this by waking up at 4:30 in the morning and taking an hour and a half before the rest of my family wakes up to spend loving time with myself.
Here's how that looks:
::I wake up and wash my face with warm water to help energize me.
::I look up at the moon to see where it is in its monthly cycle
::I honor the gift of my body through stretching and exercise.
::I give myself the gift of clarity through meditation
::Finally, I make myself a quiet cup of (decaf) coffee and spend devoted time with my journal
When I do these, things, I feel filled before the day has even begun for my family. If nothing else gets accomplished that day, if the rest of the day gets away from me, I still carry with me the gifts that my morning routine brought to me.
Of course, I always have the freedom to decide that a 4:30 wake up call just isn't worth it and sleep in. But most days, I truly do see it as a gift to myself, nourishment for my soul that only I can provide for myself.
So experiment with making sacred time for yourself a priority as important as getting to class or paying a bill. Experiment with making it a non-negotiable.
Make your presence with yourself your present to yourself.